The Secret Code Part 1

Remember the toddler stage of speech for children?  That is when close family and friends can interpret the words or phrases?  Our house is no exception!  Tristan has been in the toddler phase of speech for 11 years.

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One day when our friend was helping us with Tristan. Brian quickly gave Tristan a verbal clue to stop.  Brian said, “Bep!”  Immediately Tristan stopped and did not go into a room that he is not allowed to enter.

Our friend said, “Bep!  That is the word I needed to have for him to stop?  This information would be useful to know!”

Brian explained, “Yes that is Tristan’s version of stop.  Sorry, we didn’t fill you on it.”

We all kind of chuckled.  It made me think, “What else do we say that is code?”

Enjoy another healthy dose of laughter from our home!

Tristan’s Final Night of 2015

This New Year’s Eve I was preparing to spend a quiet evening at home.  It was just going to be me and Tristan.  Brian took the two older boys out for a game night with friends.  One teenage son was concerned that Tristan would be difficult for me at home.  I confidently said, “It will be fine.  Tristan will enjoy a quiet evening at home.”  Little did I know how the night would unfold.

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Duped!

Two days in a row I had to clean the back seat in the car. Two days in a row Tristan had an accident in the car after swimming at the lake.  The first day I changed him out of his clothes and he would not use the restroom.  Let me just say, you can NOT make a child go to the bathroom.  You can encourage and prompt, but that is it. This was one of those times.  On the second day, I changed Tristan and forgot to take him to the restroom.  By the third day I announced to my friend, “I am ready for today.  I am going to put him in a diaper after we swim, because I don’t want to clean the car AGAIN!”  On the third day, I changed him out of his swimming trunks and into a diaper.

Now before I go further into this story, let me give some information on autism and sensory issues.  Children/adults with autism have sensory issues.  They process sights, sounds, touch, taste, and smells differently than other people.  Children/adults fall into two categories,  They either avoid sensory or seek sensory.  Tristan seeks out sensory input.  He will rip a book to hear the sound.  He will play with confetti tissue paper to feel the texture.  He will dump soap to watch it drip or spill.  I know this sounds strange, but Tristan likes the feel of a wet diaper.  I don’t know why.  Therefore he is often dumping soap into his diaper or dumping a cup of water in it.  I hope I have given you a quick understanding of sensory issues.

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After swimming, Tristan was fine with the plan of wearing a diaper.  On our way home, I stopped at the gas station.  Getting into the hot car suddenly made me thirsty,  So I bought a soda.   I shared a soda with Tristan by pouring some into an empty water bottle.  I finished pumping gas and then drove away.  A few minutes later my friend said, “I should have known this was going to happen.  Tristan poured the pop down his diaper!”  All I can say is I really felt duped!  I thought I had this day all figured out.

Someday when I to get to heaven, I have many questions to ask Tristan!

Enjoy another healthy dose of laughter from our home!

Say What?

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When Tristan attended Kindergarten and First grade, we took him to school. The nice part was we got to interact with the teachers and assistants on a daily basis.  One day, there was an interesting greeting.  Mrs. S said, “Good Morning Mr. Fontaine how are you?”  Brian replied.  Although what he said and what Mrs. S heard were two different words.  So, Mrs. S paused and said, “Wow that is pretty good. I don’t know what to say.”  Brian replied he was “terrific”, but Mrs. S thought he said “perfect”.  Another healthy dose of laughter from our home!

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